Sunday, November 21, 2010


Things are different this time. I'm hearing about the other women in his life as they happen rather than a week or two (or month or two) after the fact. To me, this says that he's actually seeing me as a friend now rather than someone he's trying to string along just in case. I think our talk last Sunday night was a good thing. I'm not sitting here wondering where I stand, and perhaps because he's flat out told me where I stand, he doesn't need to hide things from me to either a) avoid hurting my feelings, or b) continue to keep me hanging.

All this doesn't stop me from feeling a bit gleeful when he texts me to say that he's had a bad date. On the flip side, it's a bit of a downer to hear that he's really digging on someone right now. But, there's not much I can do about it all aside from being his friend. And ironically enough, I do like to see him happy, even if it is someone else that is making him happy. Besides, as much as I'd love to be in a relationship with him, I think it's too soon after his last one ending, and some other things that have just been tidied up as well.

Do I still love him? You bet'cha. Am I becoming more accepting of things being the way they are? Yes.

For the record, unrequited love sucks.


Independent Chick said...

As crazy as it sounds, everything happens for a reason. Never know how things will turn out. Maybe he does need to work things through to make himself better...better when it's time to be with you maybe. : ) It will all work out as it should. As crazy and unreal at it sounds, it all really does work out as it should.

Big hugs to you. : )

Natalie said...

ugh...unrequited love sucks alot...sorry! BUT (I've been reading for awhile but not commenting) it seems like you are seeing things from a healthy perspective.


cuddles said...

Independent Chick, that's exactly what I've been thinking/hoping lately as well. I'm trying not to build up any expectations though. Life is too short to wait for someone to get to that place, if there's a chance they'll never get there. Big hugs back at ya!

Natalie, I had no idea you've been reading! Thanks for commenting. I'm a bit honoured (and intimidated) since I think your blog is wonderful. Thanks for the note. It means a lot. XO